Do I Try and Get My Ex Boyfriend Back

Big question. «Do I try to get my ex boyfriend back?» You need to sit back and really think, honestly think about this. Why were you attracted to him in the first place? What qualities drew you to him? How happy were you REALLY? The answers to these following topics can help you decide «Do I try and back with my ex boyfriend».

How did he treat you? Was he thoughtful?

Did he bring a present, no matter of the size, for no reason? Did he support your visions, your dreams? Did he lie around while you did everything, including making the decisions about where to eat, what to eat, what to wear… the list can go on and on. Look, you aren’t looking for ‘Mr. Perfect’ because he doesn’t exist, but you deserve a man who respects you.

Respect. Does he respect the other people in his life, especially his parents? How he deals with other people who are close to him will give you an insight as to how he will treat you in the future. If there is a lot of strife in his family, be wary. If he can’t honestly sit down and deal with issues with them, how do you honestly think he is going to deal with strife with you?

Work Ethic. A lot of people have lost their jobs in this economic downturn. So if he lost his, is he looking for a new one, or lying around all day? Depression after losing your job is normal, but being lazy is another. If he still has his job, is it a dead end job? Is he even trying to follow his dreams, or has he given up? If he is working two jobs, or working and going to school, give him the benefit of the doubt…he’s trying.

Cooking. Can he? Does he burn even toast? If he isn’t even trying to learn how to do something like cooking, how much help will he be in any other areas around the house? You don’t want to saddle yourself with someone who expects you to do everything.

Money. Does he have any? I don’t mean millionaire type, but can he manage the money he makes? The amount doesn’t matter so much as if he spends more than he makes. If he can handle his money now, it bodes well for the future. But remember to be honest with yourself and your ex boyfriend before you try to get back together.

Dreams. No, not those kind, but his dreams of what he wants in life, what he wants to do with his life. Is he stuck and by default, satisfied where he is? Does he want to relocate or would consider it?   Does he support your dreams? These questions need to be answered before you try and get back together with your ex boyfriend.
Take a step back and think. We all know there is no one who is perfect. But is your ex boyfriend close to what you consider perfect? The two of you fell in love before for a reason. Are those reasons still valid? Take time to think. Talk to friends and family and get their input. In the end, is is up to you if you «try and get my ex boyfriend back».